Holy Shenanigans! More STUFF? Loosing ones business due to lack of personal control is a sad thing. Ive watched many people do just exactly that. Recently, a friend told me that her only money is in her business account and shes been using it rather freely. The business is losing money. Its going under, because it cant support itself. She has another income, but shes not living within her means. So, what is she buying with her money? Frivolities, unnecessary trivialities, and bargains. She and I have discussed the bargains she buys. Shes got more STUFF than any ten people NEED, and she still buys because it makes her feel good. The fact of the matter is, she owns a big old building completely full of STUFF she refuses to sell because its got personal value, and its important to her, but the roof is falling in on the building, pigeons are in the building pooping on all of her prized possessions, so she buys more STUFF to solve the problem. Ten dollar swimming pools to keep the rain from dripping onto her antique furniture and collectibles, plastic to cover them. Meanwhile the mice are eating through the upholstery and gnawing through the antique woods. The reason she does this is it provides her with emotional security. As long as she has STUFF she has security, she thinks. In the mean while, shes working at a job to support her STUFF habit, and loosing her business, because shes wasting the money from her business, instead of using it to build a business that would eventually support her if she didnt have all that STUFF draining her income. She doesnt have security; she has STUFF being ruined by the frivolous manner in which she is spending her money. To say she is eccentric, actually only gives credence to her behavior. The fact of the manner is, she doesnt have the money to be eccentric. She has STUFF which isnt going to get her anywhere, because her STUFF is not appreciating, its getting ruined. She has friends, but she doesnt listen to them, she has to have her STUFF. Im actually afraid my friend is going to be a lonely old person taking care of her STUFF because she just cant quite realize that she needs to build relationships with people, and let go of her STUFF. One time, I even ask her about friends and she responded she doesnt have anyone she can trust. I can understand why. Shes worked her entire life to develop a relationship with her STUFF. I consider her a friend, and I have gone the extra mile to make our friendship work. I wonder sometimes at my dedication to the friendship because sometimes I feel like Im working toward a dead end. Particularly when it comes to her business. I worked for nothing at times while I attempted to help her get her business up and running. I felt eventually it would be worth something to her. But, she feels if she buys me stuff shes somehow making it worth my time to help her. Her values are misplaced, and her priorities are dysfunctional. The saddest thing is, shes filling up her business with her STUFF and when she looses the business, and she will loose her STUFF too. Then what will she do? Her STUFF isnt taken care of, its just stashed there, taking up space and loosing value. Every time I see her, I want to scream, Holy Shenanigans, MORE STUFF! But, I dont think she would understand the problem EVEN then!!! Copyright (c) 2005 - Jan Verhoeff |
